We’ve talked about things we could love on Thursday, so let’s revisit that and embrace our fabulously flawed selves. If you are a woman, and maybe some of you guys too, you’ve probably sat too close to a mirror picking, plucking, and criticizing your pores, skin, eyebrows or some other part of your face. Similarly, you’ve probably spent collective hours in front of a mirror criticizing your thighs, stomach, butt, legs or some other part of your anatomy.
While the media has given us some ridiculously unattainable goals to reach for beat ourselves up for never quite reaching, we can fight back with one tiny shift in perspective: Love Yourself. Accept your thighs, stomach, crows feet, pooch, whatever flawed part of you brings you the most grief: Start loving it. I hope that no mean people read this blog, but if they do: Hey, stop being mean. I would never talk to another living creature (or allow anyone else to speak to me) the way my inner critic does.
Comparisons are costly. Checking out your vacation pictures, and instead of enjoying the memories you’re beating yourself up for not looking as fabulous as a Victoria’s Secret model in your vacation pictures. Sound familiar? “Don’t put that picture on Facebook! I look fat!” Reality check: Victoria’s secret models are amazingly beautiful women, but their images are also captured and edited by the most talented photographers in the world. We would all look a little more fabulous if we had that luxury. Embrace your realness.
And while we’re on the topic of Facebook: The most popular girl in high school is still skinny, gorgeous, married to a wealthy, handsome man who adores her, and they travel the world with their perfect children. Really? Perhaps. But she probably wouldn’t post that she struggles with an eating disorder, or that her marriage is crumbling after an affair, or that her eldest child was recently diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome because people don’t put that on Facebook. Don’t compare yourself to others. Embrace your uniqueness and love your own flawed family.
Finally, do unto yourself as you would do unto others. Yes, you read that right. We’ve nearly all been taught to treat others as we would want them to treat us, but what about treating ourselves kindly? Compliment yourself just as you would your friend. “Hey, your hair looks great today!” “Did you lose weight?” “That dress looks amazing; I love that color on you!” I don’t know about you, but my inner talk rarely sounds like that. In fact, it sounds like nothing I would ever say out loud to myself or anyone else. So tell that voice to shut up and say something nice to that fabulous person in the mirror.
How will you be kind to yourself today?